How to remove tension in a teenager?

How to remove tightness from a teenager? How to make him perceive himself as he is. And to make his life happy and harmonious. We are sure that almost every parent asks these questions. Therefore, we decided to deal with a professional psychologist where the tightness comes from and how to deal with it in adolescence.

What is tension in a teenager?

The very concept of “timp” directly indicates the desire of a teenager to occupy an insignificant place in space. Especially brightly about the tightness through the tongue of the body “scream” almost the elbows glued to the sides, the retracted neck, the shoulders rolled inward, the lack of gestures.

At the mental level, it is a rejection of self-esteem, not allowing yourself to manifest, scarce thinking.

Causes of tension in a teenager?

1. Repetition of parental behavior patterns, including habits of “holding the body” in a certain way and being constantly in tension.
2. Despotic parents, fear of punishment up to physical punishment. You can test: swinging, as if you were going to hit, and see the reaction. If the neck is sharply pulled into the body, the reason is obvious.
3. Internal complexes related to the idea (exclusively in his head) of the teenager’s inferiority. Just ask him a question about what his plans are for the future and you will see the result, complete or partial denial of his opportunities in life.

Kinetic intelligence calls tightness a scarce state. The body says that a teenager has enough little. He adopted this idea from someone, and the body played with a new installation.

How to remove the tension?

1. Conversations with parents will not help such a child at the first stage of liberation from tension, as they are directly the foundation of this state.
   
   Therefore, it is recommended to find a kinetic intelligence specialist and a psychologist. A relaxed, attractive, but soft person in whom a teenager will see an example to follow and be trusted.
2. Learn to ask and address. To show that there is a lot of everything in the world and it is worthy to receive. That life is safe.
3. Give more than you ask or need. For example, 2 candies instead of 1. And an attempt to return the candy, stop and confirm affectionately: “This is for you, you can do more!”
4. Talk about body language, how to change shape and why to do it.
5. Help to find an occupation where a teenager can spread his wings in every sense. Dancing will do well.

How do you know when a teenager’s tension has reached a critical point and needs to see a psychologist?

1. Pathological problems with posture, ineffectiveness of massages and exercise treatment.
2. Problems in communication with peers: they are selected, beaten, called, is considered an outcast.
3. Immersion in the virtual world, rejection of pleasures typical of this age. Reclusion.
4. Problems with employment, gratuitous exploitation of other people.
5. Family conflicts, unwillingness to communicate. Or passive renunciation of one’s own will for the sake of the elders or laws.

Peter is a smart boy interested in geography and exact sciences. Attractive by nature, but not characterized by active communication. Mom began to notice that he was coming back from school with a dirty backpack or with holes on his clothes. The boy locked himself in the room and didn’t want to explain anything. Mom turned to a psychologist and kinetics expert to figure it out, help her son and calm down herself.

When conducting a simple test, it turned out that Peter, with his feed through the body, declares himself as a low-ranking person. Gamma level. This can be tamed by force and further made a “six”. In adolescence, boys “rule” the laws of instincts.

As it turned out. When the young man was offered a whole plate of candy, he squeezed his body inside, did not tear his elbows from the body, carefully took 1 piece with two fingers and pressed it to his chest. At the same time, the neck made an attempt to draw the head into the body. On the face are all signs of scarce behavior and lack of support.

After 2 classes with the boy and one with his mother, the results of the same test exceeded all expectations: the guy proudly took all the plates into his possession, boldly turned around and took her to his room. The shoulders were straightened, the neck did not strain, the hands were freed.

To the offer to return the plate, Peter answered a weighty and unappeasable “no.”
Mom exhaled, she didn’t see any more dirty backpack and torn clothes. And Peter had his first girlfriend.

In addition to external changes, the process of internal restructuring for self-sufficiency was launched, which will still be revealed in the young man and will bring positive results to his fate.

As a rule, such children do not strike brightly during puberty, but are overgrown with doubts and complexes, which can negatively affect their future adult life.

With questions of tightness, do not hesitate and, if possible, contact a specialist who will help to correct the shape and psyche of an adult person. Because this is the basis of personal confidence, which has already given a big crack.

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